Socializing 101// How to socialize in 4 easy steps

Quarantine has changed our social constructs, but one thing is for sure: We are social creatures and we miss our friends and want to go out. 

With these four easy steps to socializing effortlessly, getting back into the social field will be fun and fruitful. 

• If we’re shy, we won’t have fun

This is advice my mom gave me. She told me how she once realized as a kid, that if she is shy, and the other kids are shy- then how will everyone get to know one another and play? She gathered her courage, went up and talked. All went well and they have lovely memories until now. 

Those other people probably want to meet you as well. Even if they have a small little group (or a large one), they probably want more social associates, so don’t be intimidated and go ahead.

Be friendly, but most importantly be yourself. Friendships old and new are only good for you when you are comfortable and chill. 

• You’ve got that ONE thing! 

This is helpful for all social situations. Wether you’re meeting someone for the first time or seeing distant acquaintance, finding one thing you people have in common and both of you enjoy can be the key to a fruitful conversation. 

In my case it was meeting Salma for the first time. She wore a Blackpink shirt and I asked her if she liked them. And BOOM things took off. From Blackpink to BTS to talking korean culture and planning trips to East Asia, we didn’t run out of things to say and parting for the day was kinda sad for both of us. 

• Openness 

Don’t spill all the tea but give your conversation partner the basic information about yourself. Your age, your school and wether you have pets or not are great conversation starters. Furthermore be sensitive to what they say and how they behave. This can open more doors and topics for conversation. For example if they have painted nails, then starting a conversation about nail art and nail fashion can be the way to go. Take hints and be socially intelligent. 

Social intelligence is knowing when to speak and when to listen, when to entertain and when to step out of the spotlight, for starters.

• Get them to talk about themselves 

Getting people to talk about themselves is an easy way to socialize. A sense of achievement and social accomplishment can be sparked in the person in front of you, while you get the opportunity to sit back and listen. But be careful not to make it too obvious or too harsh, seeming like you’re only there for inquisitive reasons. You’re not the CIA. 

• One more :) Smile and nod 

A friendly manner, looking interested when people talk and a warm smile are really all the skills you need to socialize.